So, I recently bought myself in a winter coat in which I’m pretty sure I look a little like an over-roasted sta-puffed marshmallow woman (the coat’s black after all). I’m undecided about whether purchasing such a coat, weather rated to -45 degrees, means that I have finally conquered winter or that it’s actually bested me. At the end of the day, I don’t care because the dang thing makes me feel like I might possibly survive another year living in Frozen Land (which wouldn’t be so bad if it were like Disney and had talking snowmen and singing trolls).
The thing is, I’m not sure why I held out so long buying a ginormous coat. Seriously, the thing comes below my knees, and I’m 5’ so it’s kind of comical. Ask anyone and they will tell you, it’s not like I put on a brave winter face or feel the need to be “tough” about it. I whine and complain ALL THE DANG TIME about how cold I am. Why wouldn’t I have sought out better ways to manage it sooner?
The more I think about it, the more I realize how often I see people taking the same approach on other things in life.
“I have a headache.” Did you take anything? “No.”
“I’m not sure how to write this paper.” Did you read the instructions? Have you gone to the tutoring center?” “No.”
There are probably a million different reasons why we don’t seek the right support or utilize resources available to us when faced with a problem. Maybe we’re lazy. Maybe we don’t care enough. Maybe we’re afraid to admit we can’t do something alone.
My coat and I are here to say that’s probably not the best way. I can’t believe how much it has lifted my mood to get in the car and not feel like my entire body was going to turn into an icicle and then break into a million pieces. Being able to find the right tool to support me has lifted a burden in a way.
It’s also served as a reminder that we all sometimes need a little help. Maybe from friends and family. Maybe from co-workers. Maybe from fellow-writers. Maybe from a therapist. Maybe from 600 fill-power down insulation.
Whatever you need, maybe it’s time to accept a little help.